tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10873439.post724443862430655012..comments2023-10-31T05:11:16.339-05:00Comments on The Nature of the Beast: The maturity needed to raise kids = maturity to have noneUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10873439.post-19543656819881060752007-07-03T16:49:00.000-05:002007-07-03T16:49:00.000-05:00Neko-Onna:That happines is an illusion follows in ...Neko-Onna:<BR/>That happines is an illusion follows in a way from the fact [I hold it as a fact, an observation, others think it is a theory and most experience it as a wrong idea] that the pursuer of happiness is an illusion. Its my innate buddhist leanings. Though I use the pronoun in the conventional way, "I" is to me a bit of a fiction, a cognitive shortcut that sometimes leads us astray GreenSmilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07126239521640810895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10873439.post-62962243379189325092007-07-03T16:34:00.000-05:002007-07-03T16:34:00.000-05:00Dear Amy, you are exactly the person who proves th...Dear Amy, you are exactly the person who proves this is such a vital dialog: you are making the choice constantly and it really is a choice, a tough choice that you make in a well informed, experienced and consciencious way.<BR/><BR/>I get a little sad when I think about this because from all I have read of your thinking, I bet you'd be one hell of a parent.<BR/>[problem is, being the one parent GreenSmilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07126239521640810895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10873439.post-92182334659556960972007-07-03T16:21:00.000-05:002007-07-03T16:21:00.000-05:00Interesting response to an interesting thread. You...Interesting response to an interesting thread. Your assertion that the belief that happiness should be the default state in which we operate is one of the major problems of our time resonates strongly with me. I truly think that many of the "relationship problems" people have stem from this misguided assumption. <BR/><BR/>I am also intrigued by your parenting contract idea. I think it gets at Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004080251742564980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10873439.post-29069085600948185842007-07-03T15:25:00.000-05:002007-07-03T15:25:00.000-05:00I'm not ready for kids. Maybe someday I will be, o...I'm not ready for kids. Maybe someday I will be, or maybe not. I know for certain that right now, while I am emotionally and psychologically capable of being a good mother, I am not in a position to actually become one -- I lack the financial grounding, the willingness to sacrifice without resentment, and the presence of a suitable father for them (if not a partner for me.) <BR/><BR/>It always Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com